Sometimes I take myself too seriously. The universe has a way of giving me a reality check--or maybe it's my children, it's hard to tell! Anyway, a few days ago I posted my journey to create my future reality with all the bells and whistles and fancy drawings. Later that evening, I was showing my husband the picture that is now taped to my office wall. As we walked over to the drawing, I noticed a little smiley face on the right-hand side that I hadn't drawn. It was a cute little face. I am sure that it was drawn by one of my children--although they both deny it.
I had a flash of disappointment that they had "ruined" my drawing, but I quickly realized it was a perfect representation of chaos, the unexpected, and humor. Somehow freedom comes through that for me. I have worked on the concept of "chaos" in my life for years and see order and chaos as a scale with chaos on one end and order on the other. I like to think I can choose what part of the scale will best achieve my current goals and I am not locked in to a "right" way of doing things. Embracing chaos allows the unexpected to be better than what I would plan myself--and sometimes the world generously gifts me experiences beyond my wildest expectations.
I like thinking about a potluck as an example of embracing chaos. If I use the order end of the scale, I can tell everyone what to bring. I don't know what they like to make and I don't know their skill sets but I get to have the menu I want. If I use the chaos end of the scale, everyone might bring dessert (we could order pizza and the kids would remember it forever as the best potluck ever) but everyone would get to make the dish they want to make. If I used the middle of the scale, I could make a main dish and then let everyone else bring whatever they want. This would make dinner appear somewhat normal while allowing individual expression. Any of these perspectives will work and might be best in any given situation. It is being at choice about embracing chaos and how I want to embrace chaos that allows the beauty to unfold.
Most days I choose to be more on the chaos end of the scale. I love the wild ride of being able to bounce off the unexpected. For me this makes me feel free and fun-loving and easy going. For others it would make them crazy and lead to some very unpleasant feelings Think about what end of the chaos scale you are most comfortable end and then try to stretch your range in both directions. See what you notice....I'll be curious to hear your thoughts!