What this transaction needed most was an incredibly high level of goodwill.

And that goodwill had already been established.

Because I hadn’t negotiated hard at the beginning, there was trust to draw on later. Because the relationship started clean, it stayed generous—even when things got slower and more complex.

The seller took care of the safety work.

Not defensively. Not begrudgingly. She simply handled it—clearly, transparently, and with care.

Goodwill made it possible to solve problems instead of argue about them. It kept everyone collaborative. It reminded us there were humans on both sides of the paperwork.

If you’ve ever purchased something meaningful—property, a business, a vehicle, a future—you know how quickly these moments can turn tense and adversarial.

This was different.

From the very beginning, the seller took extraordinary care of me. She explained things slowly. She checked in often. She made sure I understood what I was stepping into. She acted not just as a seller, but as a steward—of the van, and of the relationship.

And here’s the part that surprised me most.

I am usually the one doing that.

I’m the person scanning contracts for both sides. Naming risks out loud. Saying, “Let’s make sure this works for everyone.” It’s how I lead, how I coach, how I move through the world.

This time, I got to receive that care instead.

There was no urgency. No pressure. Just steady, kind, competent attention—until the yes felt solid in my body, not just correct on paper.

Somewhere around day forty, I realized this had become a kind of holiday gift.

Not the camper (though I adore it).

But the reminder.

As the year winds down and everything feels louder, faster, and more urgent, I keep thinking about that 1984 VW Camper and the 51 days it took to come home.

Where might you choose goodwill over leverage right now?

What dream are you quietly protecting as you wait?

And by the way—our VW Camper has a name.

Her name is Fern.

And she is home.